For My Daughter, My Pride and Joy!

GRACE, Happy Birthday.


Oh, how the years fly.

It seems like yesterday when I first held your tiny hands in mine.

I was totally enraptured by you and my life found a new purpose.

Ten years now since you gave me a title and a new name, MOM.

You are a blessing and a constant reminder of God’s all encompassing GRACE.


You have taught me patience and self control.

I can now boast of being an efficient manager (with time and money).

I have learned that it’s not always about me.  In fact, it has never been about me.

In many ways, I was forced to give up many selfish tendencies, not that I am complaining.

I am a better person because of you.


May God grant us a long time together so that I may watch you grow to be the beautiful, intelligent and God-fearing woman I know you will be.

I hope to become your friend through the different seasons (in triumph and in failure, in joy and in sadness) that you will no doubt encounter in life.

I will not always agree with your decisions, but I promise that I will respect and support you in any way I can.

And I hope you know that you can count on me no matter what.  After all, I am your greatest fan.

I love and cherish you today and always!





True Living.


”Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Everything else is secondary”.  – Steve Jobs

Ten Quotes That Keep Me Going.

Quotes.  I love quotes.  These nuggets of wisdom that capture the imagination, dreams and aspirations of us all.  They do wonders for my self esteem and pick me up when I am down.   Here are a few quotes that I am particularly fond of.

1.  “It’s hard to wait around for something you know might never happen; but it’s harder to  give up when you know it’s everything you want.” – Unknown

2.  “The pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow. For every challenge encountered, there is opportunity for growth.” – Unknown

3.  “Love what you have. Need what you want. Accept what you receive. Give what you can. Always remember, what goes around, comes around…” – Unknown

4.  “This too shall pass.” – Persian Sufi Poets _ I love this one especially when in a difficult situation.

5.  “You are the embodiment of the information you choose to accept and act upon. To change your circumstances you need to change your thinking and subsequent actions.” –  Adlin Sinclair

6.  “Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.” – Karen Ravn

7.  “Carpe diem”  This is a phrase from a Latin poem by Quintus Horatius Flaccus (65  BC – 8 BC) , more widely known as Horace.

8.  “I was pushed by myself because I have my own rule, and that is that every day I run faster, and try harder.”  – Wilson Kipketer



9.  “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

10.  “When I quote others I do so in order to express my own ideas more clearly.”Michel de Montaigne

Changing the Color-Tags

Sometime back, I received the following mail which really encouraged me to look at people differently and to share whatever I have (could be a smile, a meal, or even a listening ear) at any particular moment.  I hope it touches you as well.

In the war years, triage referred to the policy by which medical assistance was given. It was up to the doctors to “color-tag” the wounded, placing them in one of three categories according to their condition. One color meant hopeless – nothing we can do will save them. Another tag meant they’d make it whether they get help or not. The third color-tag indicated a doubtful prognosis – a chance to live only if medical assistance is given. Since there were severely limited medical supplies, assistance was being given only to this last group.

Lou was badly blown apart, including one leg severely wounded. The doctor who examined him made the decision that Lou was a hopeless case and tagged him as such, leaving him to die. But a nurse noticed Lou was conscious and began to talk with him. They discovered they were both from Ohio. Getting to know Lou as a person, the nurse just couldn’t let him die. She broke all the rules and changed his color-tag.

Recovery included a two-day trip in the back of a truck and months in a hospital, but Lou made it. He met a girl in the hospital whom he later married. Even minus one leg, he has led a full happy life, all because a nurse broke the rules of triage and “changed a tag”.

Jesus spent much of his earthly ministry “changing color-tags” – healing the broken-hearted, forgiving sinners and bringing hope to the hopeless. He’s still bringing hope to the hopeless – every minute of every day! Today, someone you know is feeling hopeless. They desperately need hope. Share the hope of Jesus with them. Look for every opportunity to go around “changing their color-tags”.


Nothing is worse than a person who has already given up.  There can be no help for that person.  Whatever talents, dreams, strengths, he might have shared with the world are lost.  He might be unhappy with his current state but he lacks the moral courage to make the necessary changes required in order to make a positive change in his life.  I recently met up with a friend that I haven’t met in quite a long time.  Our exchange soon became a monologue that went something like this:

“I remember when I used to argue about practically anything.  And I was damn good at it.  Not the arguing per se, but convincing people and winning them over.  I remember when life was fun and the world was mine to conquer.  There were so many things to be discovered, so much good to do.  What changed?  Where did I go wrong?  I have now become docile and easily placated (meaning that I just avoid confrontations of any kind).  I don’t know, is it possible for one’s personality to change so drastically?


When was this new ‘me’ born? Was it after getting married?  My husband has never been very talkative and maybe that has something to do with it.  But then, that would be shifting blame and refusing to take personal responsibility for the state of my life.  I think the problem is much deeper than that.  I think that somewhere along the way, I gave up on who I was and I resigned myself to the drudgery of everyday life.  I think that I have been trying to disappear and to erase everything that would prove my existence.


How sad, right?  Maybe I should do what others in my position have done time and time again.  I should re-invent myself and get back what I have lost.  But I don’t think am up to it.  It would be too much work and would involve far too many changes than am willing to accommodate.  The truth is, I have grown accustomed to the sheer monotony of my life.  A part of me wants to change but the other doesn’t see the point.  What difference will it make anyway?  All my dreams are shattered and there is nothing left to fight for.”

I was left feeling sad and a bit depressed.  Here was someone beautiful, talented, clever and a social genius(I can never seem to get that last one).  Someone who was a ‘rising star’ back in high school.  Everything seemed to work out in her favour yet this is how she turns out?  The worst part is: she knows she has a problem but she is not willing to do anything about it.

Lamentably, she is not alone.  There are areas in my life that I wish were better and frankly she served as a wake up call.  I do not want to sound that despondent or to wake up one day and realise that I have lost the urge and the will to live.  I believe like Max Ehrmann that:

“With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.”
Strive to be happy.”

Another Take on Never Give Up.


When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow,
Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

– Edgar A. Guest

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character.

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

– – Frank Outlaw